Dating men 20 years older than me
I do wonder how we're going to make children work, though.The two of us haven't decided yet if that's something we definitely want, but I grew up imagining my future as a mother. Not just because I'm in love with a man who's 19 years my senior — meaning that, if we were to have kids within the next few years, he would be pushing 70 when they graduated high school, and that's a lot to handle.I'm not going to lie, the idea caught me completely off guard — but it intrigued me.Still, I had — and having many conversations about it with my best friend — I decided one date couldn't hurt. John and I hit it off instantly, and I finally started to see him in a romantic light. The only problem — at least, to some people — was John's age. How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating.
Not to be a downer, but with John being significantly older than I am, we've talked about getting our wills situated shortly after we're married so that everything is taken care of right away.But also because, as a teacher, I've seen firsthand how much responsibility being a parent takes.You have a life in front of you that you have to take care of, that you have to raise, and you want to do all the right things. And honestly, I'm not sure if it's something I want to take on.And his daughter is only 13 years younger than I am; she's used to seeing a set of parents where neither person could be close in age to her. And while we both listen to what they have to say — especially when John's daughter has an opinion — we're not going to let them control our lives.As for other people, we're lucky in that not many people have made negative comments about the two of us being together.